It is important that the survivor is encouraged, but not pressured, to obtain counseling as soon as possible. In many cases, counseling is beneficial for the survivor to manage the issues associated with the victimization and can assist with assimilating the experience into their life. You do not have to fill the role of a professional counselor. Your understanding, lack of judgment, and ability to listen are what the survivor needs most.
Friends and family of survivors are also eligible for counseling services at The Women and Gender Resource Center at no cost. The WGRC Victim Advocate can also assist with providing referrals and information for the Tuscaloosa area and in other cities should you or the survivor decide to relocate. Please call 205-348-5050 for more information.
Seeking help after experiencing violence or trauma can be difficult. The best way to help a friend, colleague or family member, is to acknowledge the difficulty and gently encourage that they seek counseling or other services. While it may seem like an effective strategy, issuing an ultimatum can actually further traumatize a victim due to a perceived continuation of the loss of control. These are some of the most common reasons people avoid seeking help: